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Is Oral Sex A Sin – What Does the Bible Say?

A few days ago on twitter, there was a serious discussion about the above matter. Where in conclusion, it left a lot of confusion. This made me to ask myself, “Is Oral Sex Sin? And what does the bible says about this matter.

Couples often ask, “Is oral sex a sin?” The best place to look for answers is in the Bible. Hebrews 13:4 says, “Marriage should be honored by all, and the marriage bed kept pure, for God will judge the adulterer and all the sexually immoral.” The first point the Bible makes very clear is that sex – all types – is designed specifically for married couples. Non-married couples are not to practice premarital sex.

The Bible never indicates exactly what a husband and wife are allowed to do in their sexual relationship. However, there are some sexual principles that we can consider.

  • Mutual Consent – 1 Corinthians 7:5 says, “Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.” This verse indicates that each sexual activity should be mutually agreed upon.
  • Adultery is Sin – The Bible is very clear that any form of adultery is sin, even if both people in a marriage relationship agree to it. 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5 says, “It is God’s will that you should be sanctified: that you should avoid sexual immorality; that each of you should learn to control his own body in a way that is holy and honorable, not in passionate lust like the heathen, who do not know God.” Adultery also includes “swapping” or adding sexual partners.
  • Viewing Pornography is a Sin – Matthew 5:28 is very clear. “But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” Pornography viewed alone or together as a couple is sin. 1 John 2:16 says, “For everything in the world – the cravings of sinful man, the lust of his eyes and the boasting of what he has and does – comes not from the Father but from the world.”

Is Oral Sex A Sin – Practical Application
When answering the question “Is oral sex a sin,” it is important to remember that God created sex to be a beautiful expression of love for married couples. When the husband or the wife does not feel that sex is a “beautiful expression of love,” then changes need to be made in that couple’s sex life. Evidentially, the actions are not mutually beneficial to each person. Nothing in the Bible says that oral sex is a sin, however it may not be appropriate for every couple.

Is Oral Sex A Sin – Questions to Consider
Consider these questions when answering the question “Is oral sex a sin?”

  • Is oral sex voluntary and have both the husband and wife agreed to it?
  • Why do you want oral sex? Is it for pure sexual pleasure or is it to fulfill a sexual fantasy derived from porn?
  • Have you or your spouse been convicted by the Holy Spirit that oral sex is wrong?
  • Does oral sex edify and fulfill both you and your spouse?

While answering these questions, pray for guidance from God. He will reveal the answer to you – for your relationship.

Trust!

screenshot_2016-05-04-07-17-39-1Pilots flying through thick clouds, sometimes experience something called “Vertigo.” This means they lose their sense of whether they’re flying upwards or downwards. Some, following their untrustworthy senses, have crashed into the ground. But good pilots rely on the equipment that tells them exactly what angle they’re flying in.

In the same way, many Christians give up on faith because feelings like doubt, guilt, fear and worry overwhelm them. In those times they should trust in God’s unchanging promises and faithfulness and learn to fly…

Jesus sets us off in a direction, then as we obey him, a storm often comes and things go wrong. We feel like Jesus is doing nothing to help us ad doesn’t seem to care, but he does! Since he’s in control, he doesn’t panic. That’s why he could sleep. Our lack of trust in him makes us fearful and doubt that he really cares for us.

Why does he allows storms to come our way? He does this to develop our faith in him. Faith that is untested is not real faith! How do we grow in trust? Remind ourselves of some things:

  1. Jesus is with us.
  2. He does care
  3. And he’s made promises he’ll keep.

He has the power to change any situation, but until he does, we must trust him. If we don’t, our emotions may overwhelm us. That’s why it’s so important to hold onto promises God makes to us in his word. Promises like, “I will never leave you nor forsake you.” Hebrews 13:5

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Emotional Infidelity-Is It Wrong?

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Emotional Infidelity- What does it mean?
Emotional infidelity occurs when we think intimately about and crave emotional intimacy from someone other than our spouse. Imagine an actor preparing to perform in a play. She memorizes her lines, gets inside the characters head, and tries to imagine how this person would feel and act. She rehearses being that person. . .The more she’s rehearsed being that character, the sharper and more automatic her performance.

Something similar happens when we fantasize sexually or emotionally about inappropriate or sinful behavior. We are rehearsing what we think about the conversations we would have with a particular [person] if we were ever alone with him/her, when we entertain thoughts of an intimate rendezvous, or wish that a certain [person] would take special notice of us. . . When we don’t guard our minds in our relationships, we weaken our resistance before any encounter takes place.

Emotional infidelity often starts when you share intimate details of your life with a person other than your spouse. You may be going through a rough part of your marriage and feel like you can’t talk to your spouse, so you choose to receive intimacy from another. That person makes you feel special and that makes you feel good. You begin to open up more and more and you like the feeling you have when you are with them. You crave the emotional intimacy you receive from that person.

Before you know it, you are sharing the deepest intimate details of your marriage. What’s the harm in this? The harm comes in the separation that has now occurred between you and your spouse. You have crossed a marital boundary. God has commanded us to be faithful to our spouses. Emotional infidelity is adultery (Matthew 5:28).

Emotional Infidelity- How does it happen?
There are so many seemingly harmless ways for good people to commit emotional infidelity. It often happens through everyday activities and the ideas that we allow to influence our minds.

Consider establishing healthy boundaries in these areas:

  • Limit television viewing and avoid watching soap operas and movies that contain sexual content and extra-marital affairs.
  • Be careful where you go on the Internet. Avoid all forms of pornography. When active in chat rooms, be sure your spouse is around and keeps you accountable for your activities online.
  • Avoid pornographic billboards. Take a different route, if needed.
  • Be careful what novels you read. Many women choose not to read romance novels because they tend to compare their husband with the hero in the story and then they see that their husband doesn’t measure up.
  • Limit your intake of magazines.
  • Be on guard so you don’t develop an inappropriate relationship with someone besides your spouse, no matter how innocent you believe it to be.
  • If you need to have a business meeting with someone of the opposite sex, consider bringing along your spouse or another coworker. Avoid being alone together.
  • Accountability partners are another way of having a check and balance system. If you find you are prone to slip, ask a good friend to hold you accountable. When you feel like you are headed for trouble — call them to talk and pray together.

Emotional Infidelity- How can I keep my mind pure?
How can we keep my mind pure and avoid emotional infidelity? It’s not always the easiest thing to do since we live in a world where sex sells.

Inappropriate thoughts are bound to come creeping into our brains occasionally, but we can choose not to entertain them. We don’t have to rehearse them like the actor mentioned above. We can immediately dismiss impure thoughts and we can refuse to commit emotional infidelity.

We need to make a commitment to keep our mind drenched with pure thoughts. When we have thoughts that are inappropriate, we need to take them captive (2 Corinthians 10:5). God tells us: Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable — if anything is excellent or praiseworthy — think about such things.

We will not be tempted beyond what we can bear (1 Corinthians 10:13). God will always provide a way out.

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Sexuality~Is Homosexuality Sin!

God’s timeless Word reveals His plan for humanity and His intentions for marriage and sexuality. While Scripture teaches that homosexual acts are sinful, these Bible verses aren’t about condemning homosexuals, gays, lesbians, or transgender people. Rather, read God’s loving warning and offer of grace for those who have strayed from His will for sex. We live in a fallen world with a fallen nature, but in Christ, we can be new creations.

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Is homosexuality a sin? And who do we believe?
God is the ultimate and sovereign judge for sin. Homosexuality is sin by His order; it is not decided by public opinion or deceived/false clergy. Changing societies do not dictate God’s standards. Sin is defined by God for us in the Bible. It is the source for what God says is holy and righteous or sin and abomination. Hebrews 13:8 states that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever; he does not “go with the flow.”

God’s Word says that homosexuality is unnatural, a perversion, an abomination, fornication, vile affections, and a great sin against Him. He states any sexual act outside of marriage is adultery (hetro or homo sexual). Sex is to be between man and woman within marriage.

Is homosexuality a sin? What does this mean?
God’s design for natural sexual relationships is part of His plan. Homosexuality…

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Sexuality~Is Homosexuality Sin!

 

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Is homosexuality a sin? And who do we believe?
God is the ultimate and sovereign judge for sin. Homosexuality is sin by His order; it is not decided by public opinion or deceived/false clergy. Changing societies do not dictate God’s standards. Sin is defined by God for us in the Bible. It is the source for what God says is holy and righteous or sin and abomination. Hebrews 13:8 states that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever; he does not “go with the flow.”

God’s Word says that homosexuality is unnatural, a perversion, an abomination, fornication, vile affections, and a great sin against Him. He states any sexual act outside of marriage is adultery (hetro or homo sexual). Sex is to be between man and woman within marriage.

Is homosexuality a sin? What does this mean?
God’s design for natural sexual relationships is part of His plan. Homosexuality falsifies what God designed. Sin often means not only rejecting God but denying or rejecting how and why we are made. Though it may be considered acceptable by some today — even in some churches — it is not acceptable to God. And we need to take that seriously.

Sexual sins were rampant in the cities of Sodom and Gomorrah. (This is the origin of the word sodomy.) Despite warnings, they refused to repent. God destroyed those cities and it was recorded as a warning to all future generations (Genesis 18:20-21, Genesis 19:4-5, 2 Peter 2:6). Some additional scriptures on homosexuality are found in:

  • Leviticus 18:22
  • Leviticus 20:13
  • Romans 1:26-27

The price paid for homosexuality and other fornications are told in:

  • 1 Corinthians 6:9-10
  • Jude 6-7
  • Romans 1:18

In spite of the growing secular humanist trend to think “it’s ok to be gay,” it’s not a righteous lifestyle. Most vocal Christians are not homophobic, but are trying to share Christ’s love for homosexuals and trying to keep them from horrific judgment.

Is homosexuality a sin? Is there hope for forgiveness?
There absolutely is hope for homosexuals. God can cleanse and purify all persons from sin. As many scriptures as there are that address sin, there are more that speak of forgiveness and redemption. He is able to give deliverance to any who sincerely desire true freedom and salvation. Such is demonstrated in 1 Corinthians 6:11 (KJV): “And such were some of you: but you are washed, but you are sanctified, but you are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.” This verse says “some of you were,” meaning they became past acts.

We are offered the empowering Spirit of God to help us turn from our sins. Coming out of drug addiction, homosexuality, pornography, or other sin isn’t always easy but God will provide the way. Christians are to “love” into the kingdom, those who desire repentance and to live by His natural plan.

Jesus Christ died on the cross for all of our sins and rose again the third day. He desires that we repent and be forgiven of our sins by coming into a personal relationship with Him.

 

Just Jump!

 

5836419792_26a66a0f02_bA young girl wanted desperately to get closer to God. One night she had a dream. In the dream she wanted to climb a high cliff to get to God at the top. She tried and tried again, but couldn’t get very far. Tired and sad, she was ready to give up and climb down. Then she noticed a trampoline at the bottom of the cliff. She let go, and bouncing up off the trampoline, landed at the very top-with God!

How do we get close to God? By using God’s trampoline and that is Jesus. We can’t get to God by “trying to climb a cliff”, our efforts to live moral and religious lives. Jesus came to set us free from the lie that we can save ourselves. We need the trampoline that God has provided through Jesus dying for our sins. John 14:6 the bible says, “I am the way and the truth and the life. No one comes to the father except through me.” 

What do the world religions all have in common? I like how Ravi Zacharias puts it in one of his teachings entitled “A builder of walls~Nehemiah” They all attempt to explain how to reach God . Buddhism has the eightfold path, Islam has its Five Pillars of Laws, Hinduism has Karma, Judaism has the Torah. So what makes Christianity different? And the answer will shock you, “Its by the grace of God and not our works.” 

God’s mission to reach us, since we can’t get to him through our efforts, God in his grace demands only that we use the trampoline he himself has provided. As we trust in Christ, we can overcome troubled hearts, the fear of death, and ignorance concerning who God really is. In Jesus, we find the way, the truth, real life and God himself. Choose Jesus today.

The caged Lion-The Devil

Why’s life tougher when you follow Jesus? Because you have a new enemy and his name is Satan! When we become Christians, we become soldiers at war. But we’re not fighting in our own power, and the outcome of this war does not depend on our performance.

A man once walked through a game farm at night. He heard a lion roar and terrified, climbed up a tree where he spent the night. The next morning, he found out the lion had been caged all along! The devil is like a roaring lion looking to catch you. 1 Peters 5:8 the bible says, “Be self-controlled and alert, Your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour.” 

When you’re in Christ, then the devil is caged. Jesus has all the authority over him and has given you his authority too. Satan cannot harm you-unless you enter his cage! How do you resist the devil and stay out of his cage? Be humble, trusting, self-controlled and spiritually alert. When we give in to pride, unbelief, temptation and spiritual laziness, we lose our spiritual protection.

Stand firm in your faith, the main battlefield is in your mind. Satan will try and get us to believe his lies, so we must stand in faith on the truth of the Bible. Stay in community with other believers. Satan looks out for the isolated ones. Together, we can watch each other’s back. Also, we must repent of all occult practices like casting spells, magic, witchcraft, sorcery, talking to the dead, psychics, glassy-glassy and tarot cards.

Be sure that God will overcome Satan’s efforts to harm you. Lastly, don’t be in awe of the devil and aware of God. Rather, be aware of the devil and in awe of God.Lion_Cage

Boiled Frogs!

thIf you put a frog in water and then slowly boil it, it won’t jump out because it doesn’t notice the gradually rising temperature. The media [music, movies, magazines, TV, radio and the internet] can also slowly kill our values and our walk with God, without us even realizing it. Dangerous messages come our way everyday that attack our purity and faith. Messages like, “Sleep around”…”If you’re angry-then hurt the one who made you angry!”…”Get rich, beautiful and famous then you’ll be happy!”…”All religions lead to God!”…”Don’t let anyone tell you how to live-it’s your life!”…and “God and faith are so old-fashioned!” Let’s learn how to jump away from the lies and avoid these harmful influences!

Romans 12:1-2, the bible says, Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, so offer your bodies like living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God-this is your spiritual act of worship. Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by he renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is-his good, pleasing and perfect will.”

God is holy and merciful. Our relationship with him draws us to reflect his holiness in the world. We need to offer our whole lives to God as an act of worship. But here’s the challenge; We’re surrounded by a culture where God’s word and ways are not known, respected or obeyed. Everywhere we look, people seem to be happily SINNING and living without even thinking about God. This pressures us to become like them, instead of being transformed to be like Jesus.

How do we actively resist this happening? Make sure your mind is not filled with rubbish, but rather with God and his word. Take control over you watch, look at, read, think about and listen to. Close your eyes if there’s violence, nudity or a sex scene. Change the station or the channel. Test everything you see or hear against God’s word. If you do this, you’ll be transformed and find joy in understanding and doing God’s perfect will.

Don’t Settle For Stale Bread!

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A man once sailed in a ship across the sea. He could afford nothing more than the ticket itself, so when everyone went to the dining room at meal times, he sat alone, eating stale bread. When they arrived at their destination, the captain asked him, “Why did you never come to meals? They were included in the price of the ticket.” 

This story reminds us of so many people who think trusting in Jesus is only about getting to heaven. Becoming a Christian carries so many other great benefits in this life too…What happens when we trust and follow Jesus? We receive the Holy Spirit. He is the presence of God who comes to live in us. We receive a brand new identity as a child and heir of God. Romans 8:14, the bible says, “Because those who are led by the Spirit of God are sons of God.”

We don’t need to fear rejection by God ever again. We know who we are because we know whose we are. We receive an invitation to enjoy God as our loving Father, we can relate to God as Abba [dad] like Jesus did. We receive the promise that God will never stop loving us no matter what.

These are incredible promises. Sadly, many Christians either forget them or struggle to believe them. That sounds like the story about the ugly duckling that just didn’t seem to fit in with other ducks, until it found out it was actually a beautiful swan. That discovery made the swan spread its wings and fly for the first time! Let’s use our meal ticket and start eating from God’s table. Let’s use our wings and begin flying on God’s promises.

Do you believe these promises? Has your faith been based on feelings-or on the facts of God’s Word?

Natural Born Sinners!

Have you noticed just how naughty little children can be? Have you asked , “Who taught these kids to disobey their parents…to lie…or to steal?” The Bible tells us that it’s our sinful rebellious hearts that leads us to do bad things. One of the words for sin means “to miss the goal.” God created us to reach the ultimate goal-the goal of reflecting his love and holiness in the world! But, sadly, so often we seem to miss the target.

Romans 3:10-20 and v23, the bible speaks on this subject. God searches deeper than our achievements, looks and personalities. He sees minds that don’t understand him. Verses 10 and 11 respectively the bible says, “As it is written: “There is no one righteous, not even one; there is no one who understands, no one who seeks God.” He sees hearts that have turned away, he hears words that are dishonest and hurtful, he sees pain, sometimes self-inflicted. He observes that we have no peace or fear of God in us.

How does God respond to sin? He judges us according to his perfect law which mirrors his own holiness. Verses 19 the bible says, “Now we know that whatever the law says, it says to those who are under the law, so that every mouth may be silenced and the whole world held accountable to God.” All of us have sinned, falling short of God’s perfect standard.

Many at times we wonder if God is mean to judge our sins? The answer is No. Injustice happens when judges let the guilty off or treat certain people different. God makes sure that justice happens. He lets no one get away from their deserved punishment. He judges according to unchanging law that are based on his unchanging holiness.

Romans 2:5, The bible says, Because of your stubbornness and  your unrepentant hearts, you are storing up wrath against yourself for the day of God’s wrath, when his righteous judgement will be revealed.